Throughout the day, we talk to ourselves—and the phrases echoing through our heads are not always kind. Internal self-talk can influence mood, motivation, and what we believe is possible.
Changing repetitive thoughts takes time. It begins with recognizing the thought and examining whether it is accurate or useful.
1. “I’m so stupid.”
A mistake is not a complete description of your ability. Try changing the statement to something specific: “That decision did not work the way I hoped.”
2. “I’m not good enough.”
This thought can make giving up feel safer than trying. A more balanced response might be: “I may not do this perfectly, but I can try and learn from what happens.”
3. “Everybody hates me.”
This is an all-or-nothing conclusion. Someone may be disappointed or a relationship may need repair, but that does not establish what everyone thinks of you.
4. “Today is a horrible day.”
A difficult event can color the entire day. Stepping back may help you notice that a day can contain both painful and positive moments.
You are human, and no one is perfect. Begin changing the voice inside your head by speaking more fairly to the person who hears it most—you.